All it Took Was Hayete (and we were eating Boursin)

We were watching TV, drinking wine, snacking in bed and enjoying it immensely because mature people shouldn’t be leaving crumbs in bed.

I was laughing at a particularly funny scene of The Big Bang Theory when you handed me a cracker with a piece of garlic Boursin (yummm) and I distractedly said “thanks hayete”.

And you asked me what “hayete” means. Anyone who knows me should know this word because I abuse it in the most annoying way. And you know me!

Or maybe not that well. A few days before, you had asked me why I read Lebanese local news in English, why I don’t own any books in Arabic, and why I sometimes speak to my Iraqi friend in English. The answer took a whole afternoon. I had to explain my school, basically structured like a French colony; a national education system where math and sciences are either in French or in English, never in Arabic; I had to explain classical Arabic vs. Dialects, and why I think the Dialects should be recognized as official languages. I had to explain confused Lebanon and Beirut my rebellious babe.

Because if you don’t know these things you don’t know me.

And now “hayete”? That tacky irritating over-used term of endearment that carries all the sweetness of Arabia to wash down all the bitterness of Arabia. Yes yes, I’m getting carried away, but I’m nothing if not a drama queen, please don’t act so surprised.

How could you not know this word when our level of intimacy was Garlic In Bed On A Friday Night?

You know me. You’ve been through every centimeter of my body and you’re probably familiar with the cellulite on my ass. You know that in my second drawer on the right, underneath my crazy lingerie collection, I stash a few big cotton knickers for when I get my period. You’ve seen me shave my legs, how could you not notice the history of Lebanon marked somewhere on my skin?

You know everything.

You never judged me when I had anxieties, and you never tried to stop my blue brand of craziness. You were always very careful about everything, except that one time: I still remember the day you noticed the very old, very faint scars on my left arm and you counted them; and then you made me promise I would never ever have any more. I kept telling you the scars were very very old but they made you angry anyway.

You know everything, really everything. It doesn’t matter that we’re done, I’m glad there’s someone out there who knows everything, and I’m glad that it’s you.

But you didn’t understand every word and that thought still makes me sad.

Advertisements

6 thoughts on “All it Took Was Hayete (and we were eating Boursin)

    • admittedly very probable. but that hurts a bit more then, was he trying to impose distance or just making me talk more?
      (i’m experimenting with no-capital-letters, but it feels like half the sentence stayed stuck in my head!)

      • we’re only human.. sometimes i wish i could understand but i can’t. maybe he tried to understand (and it’s a very sensitive subject here) and then gave up (which is lazy, and sad but maybe he tried at first – but that’s something only you know).
        self loathing and self harm is heavy on the people feeling it and those around them.. so i wouldn’t blame him for not understanding..
        i think it hurts either way, because you opened up but truth is, words aren’t enough.
        i don’t know if i’m making sense.

        ok. i think, personally, that it’s ok if people can’t understand unless they love you, with all your history and all that you’ve been through, the same.
        you know what i mean? (cause i feel like i’m not making my thoughts clear *sips more coffee* )

        and yes no-capital-letters can do that, it makes anything you write lack structure and look unorganized. which is probably why i like it.

      • I think I understand what you mean. Also, (and he told me that), I was being unfair to him because I kept expecting him to be perfect (wanted him to be). And for me, it was something that happened a lifetime ago and I was over it. For him it was new, and he was angry and shocked, and honestly I never recognised his right to be angry and shocked. None of it matters anymore anyway. I’ll just go make some more tea.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s